Preparing Siblings for a New Baby

Welcoming a new baby is an unforgettable moment—full of wonder and transformation. For older siblings, though, it can feel a bit confusing, even intimidating, as they begin to realize that life is changing, and they’ll be sharing you in a new way. Preparing them isn’t just about “getting them ready”—it’s a tender process that’s all about connection, one that invites them in with love, honesty, and reassurance.

For most children, learning that a new sibling is on the way brings a whole mix of emotions. They might be curious, even excited, or they might be a little anxious, wondering what life will be like. You may see it in their play—they might start “taking care” of a favorite doll or stuffed animal, mimicking what they see in you. Sometimes they’ll ask questions that surprise you, and those are the golden moments to start conversations about the baby, letting them know they’re part of this journey, too.

Encourage their curiosity, and remind them how much they’re loved. Let them explore their feelings openly. When they’re invited to express what they’re feeling, they see that they have a place in this new season, that this isn’t just “the baby’s story”—it’s their story, too.

When it’s time to welcome the baby, consider inviting them to be nearby if they’re interested. Sometimes, watching as the baby arrives or knowing they’ll be the first to hold their new sibling is such a meaningful experience. These first moments of closeness can help set a foundation for the bond they’ll build over time. Even if they’re a bit shy, a gentle, unhurried introduction can show them that this baby is here for them.

After the baby’s home, it’s natural for older siblings to feel both pride and uncertainty. They’ll notice how much of your time the baby needs, and they might not love sharing you in new ways. Some days they’ll cling to you, or you might see them acting out. That’s okay—it’s all part of them finding their place in this “new normal.” Carving out moments just for them, even if it’s a few minutes each day, reassures them that they still have your heart and your attention. Familiar routines can become a comforting anchor, grounding them in the security of your love.

And remember to lean into the support around you and give yourself grace. This isn’t easy, and some days might feel overwhelming. But these little acts of connection—with both your new baby and your older child—are building a foundation for a loving bond that will grow over time. Preparing siblings for a new baby is never about being perfect; it’s about making room for love to expand and giving everyone, including yourself, permission to move through this with tenderness and patience.